September 29, 2017

Hugh Hefner, who built the Playboy enterprise from his kitchen table to an international brand of a carefree and hedonistic lifestyle, has died at age 91 of natural causes. His influence on the so-called sexual revolution is unmistakable, but whether that influence contributed to the decline of fidelity in marriage, a casual attitude toward sex, or treating sex as an act of biological passion rather than an intimate expression of unselfish love will be judged by the Creator of life, marriage and sex. But one cannot deny his shrewdness as a businessman, entrepreneur, and exploiter of human nature. His empire had fallen in recent decades, perhaps the victim of those who took pornography to new levels, leaving the more subtle Playboy approach seeming tame in comparison.

I can definitely say that in my time of counseling hundreds of couples, I never once heard a person say that Playboy magazine or its advocacy of following one’s lust made theirs a better marriage. It would be fair to say that Hefner didn’t create lust, he just exploited it commercially and made a fortune off it. But his death proves two things: hedonism doesn’t necessarily trim years off of one’s life as he lived to the age of 91…and that such a lifestyle comes to the same conclusion that all lives do, and our legacy will be determined by others.



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  • Richard D

    10/01/2017 10:44 AM

    I just love the way you describe Hugh Hefner.

    You didn't go "full out" and bash him because of Playboy because he and trump were friends for awhile. But I am surprised you did not bash Hugh Hefner for his lifetime of standing up for LGBT rights, transgender rights, and the right to have same sex marriage.

    I also want to point out what Hugh Hefner once said his definition of "obscenity" was:

    "Racism, war, bigotry, but sex itself, no."

    Racism, war, bigotry....what trump and his supporters are all for.

  • William J. Ewonce

    09/30/2017 01:52 PM


    I had the honor and pleasure of meeting you and listening to you speak at my church, Christ Church at Grove Farm, in Pittsburgh, PA a few years ago. I always appreciate your point of view on current events and issues you choose to share. Today is no exception.

    Thank you for your faith, patriotism and leadership.

    God Bless You,
    Bill Ewonce

  • Timothy S Morton

    09/30/2017 04:21 AM

    It's quite simple really. Hugh Hefner was a lifetime legalized drug pusher, singularly responsible for untold millions locked in the addiction of lust. It's as simple as that.

  • Brenda Turner

    09/29/2017 11:53 PM

    Not my place to judge or even speculate. I hope he repented and had a relationship with God before he went. But I think of Adam and Eve and the idealist life they led before the deception. They could eat from any tree except for the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Well, satan talked her into tasting the forbidden fruit and she had her husband partake, their eyes were opened and they knew they were naked and ran to hide and sewed fig leaves to cover (the parable of the fig tree). satan told them they would not surely die but would be like gods. He lied.They were no longer holy and pure so they couldn't stay with God in the Garden anymore. He then had to make rules for the Israelites because the different people they came into contact with were sexually active, and not in good ways. So he had to tell them (the good and the evil), don't murder, don't steal, don't bear false witness against your neighbor don't commit adultry or covet your neighbors wife or his stuff.
    I am sorry but I believe he kicked the ball in to the public court where it became more comfortable and looked like an attractive lifestyle. I know this stuff has gone on for centuries but he was the modern pioneer, everything in media form after that was more explicit and perverted and now look at the number of child porn movies out there with babies and small children and teenagers. Innocent is gone from our civilization even from our children. And as I think we are heading into the end times I don't expect it to get better. I am trying to fight back against indoctrination in our schools to "gender neutral pronouns" for example the teacher that wants 5th graders to address her with her preferred pronouns...they, them, theirs. How crazy can you get. The real problem is the 5th graders going to English class learning the proper way to use pronouns then going to "they's" room and using "them" and "their" to address one person standing in front of them. Chaos and confusion that is satan. He is not welcome around my family or any of his minions. Whoops, got carried away, what was the subject?
    I am afraid for Mr. Hefner because I don't know the condition of his soul at his demise. God is good, fair and just. We will all reap what we is written.

  • Alan Carvalho

    09/29/2017 09:29 PM

    It is very difficult to be perfect ...... that being said ...... perfection is still a worthwhile pursuit

  • Jonny L Whisenant

    09/29/2017 06:06 PM

    Dear Mike,
    It seems to me that the whole of Mr. Hefner’s lifework contributed substantially to the progressive loss of the Sanctity of human sexuality and marriage amongst the general American public. Those elements of human sexuality that reflect the Sacred in us have been progressively marginalized, forgotten, made commonplace and ultimately trodden underfoot. We have moved from a nation that generally accepted as true that Humanity was made in the Image of God, to a nation whose values, and gods, are largely determined by the desires of the moment. If it is true as the Scripture teaches and as I believe, that we are made in the likeness of God, then we are given by God a privilege of incredible value and worth that no other being, creature, or any other part of creation in the universe possesses. Further the New Testament writings reveal that not only are we made in His image but that we may also become members of His household as Sons and Daughters through His Son Jesus, A TREASURE greater than any on earth, even greater than the value the whole world. And through this, He blesses us through our sexuality to be THE ONLY BEINGS IN THE ENTIRE CREATED UNIVERSE THAT CAN RE-CREATE THE IMAGE OF GOD through our children. He has set humanity on an unimaginable pedestal as the TRUSTEES Of HIS IMAGE , A SACRED CALLING, and we have esteemed it as lightly as Esau esteemed his own inheritance and traded it for a superfluous desire of the moment. IT IS THIS SACRED CONNECTION THAT WE HAVE LOST as we have lightly esteemed this element of our sexuality, detached it from what should be an inseparable relationship, and reduced all of its ways and means to the image of a fast food drive through. Though as an Evangelical I do not believe that sexuality was meant only for the propagation of children, without this understanding and respect for this element of it, couples are not challenged to join hands in a mission bigger than themselves and their own satisfaction in their marriage. The practice of exclusive sexuality in marriage (and everything leading up to it) loses an important raison d’etre and ally. For Hugh Hefner it appears that sexuality was not about loving God and recreating His Image, and setting apart those practices that support it, but the De-glorification, commonizing, and commercializing of the Sacred.
    Jonny L Whisenant
    Fideles Ministries
    P.S. and no…I’m not related to Edgar or his 88 reasons:-)

  • Pat White

    09/29/2017 05:53 PM

    I was thinking about this yesterday. It seems so sad that a spirit that once lived with God, knew Him personally, left his first home (heaven) came to earth and practiced his God given right to make his own choices. Now that he is gone, I feel sure that he remembers leaving his first home and the God who created him. I'm also sure that at the moment he left here, it all came crashing down what he had done. I can not even imagine how devastating that must be. Just knowing that you will be forever separated from the One who made you, who loved you enough to suffer and die for you. It must be horrible. Now, I do not know this mans heart, only God does. I do not know what kind of relationship he had with God if any at all. I do know the lifestyle he led does not look like the life God would expect from His children. I do not judge this man, that God's job. Just some thoughts I had on his passing.

  • Nick

    09/29/2017 05:46 PM

    I believe he is now filled a full-time position keeping the fire hot in hell

  • Jennifer Ochmanski

    09/29/2017 05:23 PM

    I don't celebrate what he contributed, porn addiction that has ruined countless marriages, not a great accomplishment but I do hope he turned to God before the end because I wouldn't celebrate him going to hell either. I don't celebrate anyone going to hell, no matter what they've done. I see the fact that he lived so long as God's mercy, giving him opportunity to come to him.

  • Cathy T

    09/29/2017 05:20 PM

    You left out the word reckless. Because he could not control who read his magazines, I was introduced to crotch shots in the restroom of my home when I was a child. They were hidden underneath the folded towels. I cannot tell you how it impacted. Just suffice it to say, I was. Since then, I have not met one man who abstained from the practice of porn. He may have been able to turn a dollar but he hurt every woman who ever had a dad, a spouse, a brother, etc. that stared into the pages of those centerfolds.

  • Tonia Hansen

    09/29/2017 05:18 PM

    I do not envy him the knowledge of all the pain and wickedness he caused here.

  • Carolyn Torgerson

    09/29/2017 04:41 PM

    I always appreciate how you comment on someone who doesn't share your Christian beliefs. In the case of Hugh Hefner, you acknowledged his strengths as a business man but didn't condone his lifestyle. You did it in a totally honest and respectful way acknowledging that we all will face God someday and be judged by him. Even those of us who are born again will give an accounting.

  • Kathy Jean Cook

    09/29/2017 04:33 PM

    I certainly aren't one to judge, I leave that up to our heavenly Father, And we are supposed to pray for those that have souls are so lost. The sad truth is so many lookup up to the 1 man like he was a god, When we should be putting all of our soul into pleasing God by being obedient and not trying to exploit others to glamorize their own lives. I do pray for his soul, because no-one in their right mind would want to even see a glimpse of Hell. NO Thanks!

  • Rondel Dewayne Fulbright

    09/29/2017 04:30 PM

    I can't believe the number of people who are mourning his passing.

  • Chris Jennings

    09/29/2017 03:52 PM

    Glad to see you not bash him, Mike. Our Lord and Creator will be the final judge as you stated.

  • Phil Leininger

    09/29/2017 03:41 PM

    .... why compellest thou the Gentiles to live as do the Jews? (Galatians 2:14 KJV)