February 4, 2019

The deeply felt responses to my commentary on abortion keep arriving, and it’s especially gratifying to see the personal stories. This letter in particular makes some wonderful points...

From Sandra:

I’ll start by saying I was 16 years old when I got pregnant. Did I worry about what people would say? Sure! I grew up in a rural North Dakota town in the ‘80s and early ‘90s. It was unheard of at the time –- that is, having a high school junior coming to school pregnant. 

She was born March 10, 1993. She saved my life. She changed the trajectory of my life. 

Did I consider abortion? No. Did it cross my mind? Only in the fear that my parents would make me get one. Did they bring it up? I remember it like it was yesterday. My dad said, “We are relieved that you aren’t getting an abortion.”

A family member was brutally raped. In college. In her dorm room. She had the baby. He is the center of her life. Now he is an adult who served in the military.

My point to all this is that I understand the impact of having a child when you aren’t ready to be a parent. I overcame it in a small, judgmental town. 

I really don’t know how ANYONE can CHOOSE to kill their unborn baby. I really don’t. Adoption is an option for those who aren’t ready. Many people are waiting to adopt babies.

 Please, consider introducing a bill that would make adoptions affordable and easier for families who wish to adopt. We would have adopted after I had health problems that cost me my ability to have more children. I was 27 when I had a hysterectomy. There are loving couples and families who would adopt in a heartbeat if they can cut all the red tape. Background checks? Fingerprints? Home visits? No problem. But $15,000-30,000 can be a problem for most people. Thank you.


From Laura:

Thanks so much, Sandra, for sharing your story. One thing I love about your letter is that you go beyond just making the case against abortion by offering a positive suggestion that would encourage an alternative. That’s something the legislature could and should do --- find ways to get the cost down and offer other incentives to make adopting easier. We know the Democrats currently running Congress will absolutely not do the least thing to restrict abortion –- that issue is THEIR “wall” –- but if they want to maintain the illusion that they really are about “choice” (which they are NOT on most issues, strongly preferring government say-so), then perhaps they could at least help create some bipartisan legislation that is pro-adoption.

Of course, if they love abortion so much that they won’t even go along with that, then the bill will just have to wait till Republicans are in the majority again. And when they are, they better DO IT. I’m going to break out of my usual pessimism to say that I see voters actually waking up to the barbarism of abortion, especially late-term abortion, and to predict that they’ll support moves to encourage and facilitate adoption. (At this point, only about 15 percent of Americans support totally unrestricted abortion.) Thanks again for writing, and best wishes to your family!


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  • Garlett Avery

    02/05/2019 11:53 AM

    This barbaric actions of abortion has finally stepped out of the darkness.Our country's path must change.I'm praying for God to forgive us ,I only think that will happen if we stop killing God's children.We must all stand up boldly to abolish these actions.Unfortunately we seem to be going the opposite way.
    Every woman who is yelling it's my right to choose has already been born.

  • Marcia Bollen

    02/04/2019 08:02 PM

    I am appalled that so many Human beings would allow and even encourage abortions in general, and I personally know several couples that would have made awesome parents but they couldnt afford to adopt. One couple went as far as to be guardians for exchange students here in Georgia. There are so many women even single ones not married that would love to adopt also. Do you know the feeling of holding your child while they sleep and that sweet baby smell they have.. that Peace? Some women that cant have children would love to feel that also. With so many young women having female problems in their teens because of all the hormones in our food now. Well, how many of them will have to adopt to have a child of their own??

  • Linda Heard

    02/04/2019 06:54 PM

    I'm not sure how I came across this post. I guess it doesn't really matter. There are so many stories out there that have relevance to the topic of abortion. I can only assume that this is who "we" are in the history of earth. I don't believe it is up to the government to determine whether an abortion is legal or not. Sadly, I believe it is up to the mother and yet...this is who "we" are. "We" don't appreciate life and have been led to believe this. No one can know the grief of killing an unborn baby until you have done that. I have a serious illness that needed to be perfect if I even considered pregnancy. I worked hard to be in perfect health for my daughter born 24 years ago. She is healthy and gorgeous. I aborted a baby at 2 months when I believed I was not in perfect health. I still grieve 30 years later as I consider the fact that the doctor did not discuss the situation properly with me. I forget his name, but remember that he was the only doctor in Gaithersburg, MD 1989 who performed abortions and was perfectly happy to do so. To this day, I can hear him say, "You snored throughout the whole procedure!" Life is full of choices and I wonder every day if I had chosen differently would my daughter have had a brother/sister? Maybe things happen for a reason. I don't know, but I believe that we are in a very dangerous place when the people of the United States of America have decided that only the government can decide for us what God knows as life.

  • Linda Olds

    02/04/2019 06:45 PM

    I was a hospital pharmacist. We helped the doctors and nurses take care of tiny premature babies. I cannot understand how so many people think it's ok to kill their babies.
    Single motherhood is difficult, but not as condemned as it used to be. Especially if the fetus is in the 3rd trimester, why can't they have the baby and give it up for adoption? The left seems to think that there is no downside for the mother who aborts, but it is very traumatic psychologically for many women. It is not like getting a mole removed. Giving a baby up for adoption, though it can be traumatic too, is the solution.

  • Kenneth Hadler

    02/04/2019 05:57 PM

    I think we need a law that organizations/groups which receive funding from government sources are prohibited from making contributions to political candidates or political campaign funds.

  • Jarie Strick

    02/04/2019 03:21 PM

    I am pro Life without question and agree with the young lady above, Sandra, and I really need to know WHY is it so expensive to adopt here in America? Is there that much red tape involved? I think that is the block in the middle of this. There has to be alternatives that are completely legal.

  • Firewagon

    02/04/2019 01:50 PM

    In this fallen world, Free Will is granted to the human animal. Human kind are the most prolific killers of their own kind. Several, in the insect world, eat their young, but they don't just 'discard' them. In the animal kingdom, it is the rare breed that kills their own. There is a solution; however, in America we have discarded it. Americans have killed more than the entire populations of several countries through abortion: 62 MILLION and counting - Stalin, Pol Pot, Hitler, even, would be impressed! We sent the military in in WWII, when only several millions were at risk of being annihilated. I suppose our 'secular society' can live with ONLY a million a year being killed?

    The solution(?): "What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and YE ARE NOT YOUR OWN?(My emphasis) For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's." 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

  • Jesse sumrall

    02/04/2019 01:15 PM

    You said something about when republicans get control of Congress again. They had control, and what did they accomplish? Nothing, diddley squat, that’s what they accomplished. They

    spent all their time trying to get President Trump out of office. If he would have had

    the backing of congress, he could get a lot

    more done.

    This captcha this is so stupid


    02/04/2019 12:07 PM

    I come from a large family blessed with exceptional parents. Several of us were able to participate in a MARCH FOR LIFE activity on Saturday. We marched , we prayed, we cried and we prayed again. We cannot imagine our family with one of us missing. I am a grandmother of a beautiful 19 year old girl that was saved from abortion less than 24 hours from the time it was scheduled to take place. Thanks to my son, that was brave enough to inform us that his girlfriend was pregnant and she was being taken for an abortion the next morning, we were able to convince her parents to let the baby live. He could have easily allowed the murder of my granddaughter to occur, and we would not have been the wiser, instead he chose to accept his responsibility. My 17 year old son proved to be much more of a man then many others whom choose to murder their own flesh and blood. Today my grand daughter is in nursing school. Her mother and father both beat the odds, refused to be a "statistic" and are college educated and working full time. Thank God for good decisions. Thank God that they chose LIFE

  • Nancy Carolan

    02/04/2019 11:55 AM

    I found myself engaged and pregnant in 1970. Abortion was illegal but obtainable. I thank God that I never even considered that as an option. It was a difficult time. We got married, it's wasn't a good marriage, he drank, and I divorced him after 29 years. But this marriage produced two wonderful kids and now I have two wonderful grandkids. Would I trade them in for a different life, maybe an easier life? Not in a million years.

  • Nancy Carolan

    02/04/2019 11:54 AM

    I found myself engaged and pregnant in 1970. Abortion was illegal but obtainable. I thank God that I never even considered that as an option. It was a difficult time. We got married, it's wasn't a good marriage, he drank, and I divorced him after 29 years. But this marriage produced two wonderful kids and now I have two wonderful grandkids. Would I trade them in for a different life, maybe an easier life? Not in a million years.

  • Teresa Young

    02/04/2019 11:27 AM

    In Jan of 1972 I went to the doctor to get my IUD removed, because I wanted to get pregnant. I was already pregnant. The doctor said, the IUD is sitting on top of the sac. We should remove the sac & IUD & you get pregnant again". The word abortion was not really heard of back then. I didn't really realize the full impact of what he was saying. I said to my doctor, no I'm going to stay pregnant. We really want a baby". He said you are taking a real chance the baby could be retarded, damaged in other ways. I said I'll take my chances. My son was born at barely 7 mo. Today he is a very strong broad shouldered six foot State Trooper for the Oregon State Police. Abortion was never a choice, as a Christian for me. My doctor did not use that word. Our son & daughter & grandkids are the joy of my husband & my heart.

  • Stephen Russell

    02/04/2019 10:32 AM

    Yes make adoptions easier & CUT the local,state "red tape" alone.
    Make price competitive.
    Do Background checks, check home life, etc A-Z.
    Do survey for potential parents & then Vet( finances, psych, emotional, Education, employed, drug use,prior abuse etc)
    Make Public.
    Use Auto Club??
    Reuse if any idle ex Planned Parenthood Centers.
    Use Hospital OB GY for services Outpatient for adoptive parents.
    More can be done
    ( Im a pet parent)