The deeply felt responses to my commentary on abortion keep arriving, and it’s especially gratifying to see the personal stories. This letter in particular makes some wonderful points...
I’ll start by saying I was 16 years old when I got pregnant. Did I worry about what people would say? Sure! I grew up in a rural North Dakota town in the ‘80s and early ‘90s. It was unheard of at the time –- that is, having a high school junior coming to school pregnant.
She was born March 10, 1993. She saved my life. She changed the trajectory of my life.
Did I consider abortion? No. Did it cross my mind? Only in the fear that my parents would make me get one. Did they bring it up? I remember it like it was yesterday. My dad said, “We are relieved that you aren’t getting an abortion.”
A family member was brutally raped. In college. In her dorm room. She had the baby. He is the center of her life. Now he is an adult who served in the military.
My point to all this is that I understand the impact of having a child when you aren’t ready to be a parent. I overcame it in a small, judgmental town.
I really don’t know how ANYONE can CHOOSE to kill their unborn baby. I really don’t. Adoption is an option for those who aren’t ready. Many people are waiting to adopt babies.
Please, consider introducing a bill that would make adoptions affordable and easier for families who wish to adopt. We would have adopted after I had health problems that cost me my ability to have more children. I was 27 when I had a hysterectomy. There are loving couples and families who would adopt in a heartbeat if they can cut all the red tape. Background checks? Fingerprints? Home visits? No problem. But $15,000-30,000 can be a problem for most people. Thank you.
Thanks so much, Sandra, for sharing your story. One thing I love about your letter is that you go beyond just making the case against abortion by offering a positive suggestion that would encourage an alternative. That’s something the legislature could and should do --- find ways to get the cost down and offer other incentives to make adopting easier. We know the Democrats currently running Congress will absolutely not do the least thing to restrict abortion –- that issue is THEIR “wall” –- but if they want to maintain the illusion that they really are about “choice” (which they are NOT on most issues, strongly preferring government say-so), then perhaps they could at least help create some bipartisan legislation that is pro-adoption.
Of course, if they love abortion so much that they won’t even go along with that, then the bill will just have to wait till Republicans are in the majority again. And when they are, they better DO IT. I’m going to break out of my usual pessimism to say that I see voters actually waking up to the barbarism of abortion, especially late-term abortion, and to predict that they’ll support moves to encourage and facilitate adoption. (At this point, only about 15 percent of Americans support totally unrestricted abortion.) Thanks again for writing, and best wishes to your family!